Any disability becomes ability if you have the right mindset.

Never say, " I don't think I could ever ..." because fate will giggle, take one look at you and challenge you with the " I don't think I could ever ...” One morning you wake up and life seems up side down. That's when " I don't think I could ever ..." turns into "God guide me and give me strength." You find out which family and friends truly have your back.

Whether permanent or temporary when a disability presents itself it's natural to feel isolated and confused. It's OK to feel angry. It's OK to feel desperate and frustrated. Just remember there is always someone who has the answer to your questions and is willing to offer the answers. I have found that most people with a disability and their caregivers invite questions and are welcome to helping others in similar situation. Many, as do I, feel obliged to share information. Once armed with the information offered by those that have been there any disability becomes ability.

Living in a family with a disabled family member is not much different then a standard household. Get up, brush your teeth, wash up, get dressed, eat, and clear the table, then off to school or work. The difference is someone has to help the family member that has difficulty moving or thinking: get up, brush your teeth, wash up, get dressed, eat, take their medicine, clear the table, then off to school or work. Everyone in the household learns to help with getting dressed, putting on braces and positioning in the bed, tub, stroller or wheelchair. Little thing that we do and take for granted or seems easy, become major victories that are celebrated. Everyone in the household learns how to feed those who can't feed themselves. Everyone learns to help with every activity that no one else has to think about doing. Then suddenly there is a routine; helping each other has become as natural as breathing, normal.

The most difficult challenge becomes developing and maintaining good self-esteem. Be optimistic, think positively, an “I can” or “you can” attitude will prevent or remove the barriers formed by doubt. Love and faith are your strongest tools. When people stare or try to avoid you don't be offended smile, say hello, take the first step toward communication. People fear what they don't understand. A smile with an outstretched hand opens the door to questions and sharing. You never know who may have information that may make your life, or someone else's life a little easier. Remember no matter how bad you think your situation is, someone else has it more difficult. Any disability becomes ability if you have the right mindset.

I celebrate the struggles my family has experienced and overcome for they have taught all of us that we are strong. Our struggles have helped our family to build bonds founded on love that will never be broken. Our faith is strong and grows stronger each day. We are grateful for our struggles as we see miracles every day; another day without a seizure, a new movement, a day with little to no pain, the ability to speak a little clearer, or the dog playing a slow game of ball with Branden.